I hit two milestones this week. Yay me!
I also included a TL;DR if you just want to scroll to the bottom and get to the meme dump.
I apparently wanted to talk the hind leg(s) off a donkey this week.
I need to quit reading those Elmore Leonard books.
TL;DR - Two achievements this week: I celebrated 5 years at my current job and I made it 100 days sober.
- Since I graduated from college, I have been in the workforce for more than 25 years now but I never spent more than 5 years in one place until this past week.
- My first job post-college only lasted 6 months because I was homesick. I moved from Idaho to Oregon and it was not a pleasant experience for yours truly. I actually wrote a blog post about it in 2015.
- My second job lasted about 4 1/2 years but I needed to transition from the graveyard shift to the day shift because it was hard having a relationship with someone if you never see them.
- I successfully transitioned out of journalism into marketing but I was a victim of the 2008 recession and lost that job after about 4 1/2 years.
- With a baby on the way and Mrs. Shife in a pretty good spot professionally, I started the most challenging job of my life, stay-at-home dad. I was able to take care of Kyle and eventually Hayden and also started a freelance career.
- After nearly 6 years of daddy daycare, I was presented with an opportunity by one of my freelance clients to come work for them full-time in the office. It was a big mistake but at the time I thought I was making the right decision.
- After two years at the ad agency, it was time to move on because this place had no respect for the work/life balance and I was spending way too much time away from my family. In my opinion, working at an ad agency is like being in high school all over again. So much gossip, backstabbing, and cliques. It was no bueno.
- Then it was on to a tech company for about 16 months. This felt like a rebound relationship as I was so happy to be away from the agency but this wasn't the job that I wanted to do for the rest of my life.
- So the search was on again and eventually I got hired at a university to help with their marketing efforts, and, 5 years later, it is hopefully the last job I have until retirement.
- I made it 100 days sober. I still am not sure what I am doing but being sober is the plan. I also feel like I have talked about this way too much on the blog so I wanted to clarify a few things and then probably only mention it again when I hit another big milestone like 6 months or a year.
- I have had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol since I can remember. It was taboo in my house growing up because my biological dad and my maternal grandfather were alcoholics so no booze in the house. Then, when I did drink with friends in high school and college, it was to get drunk as fast as I could so I had more liquid courage to talk to girls or be adventurous.
- For the most part, I never drank in moderation. I always drank way too much. I thought I needed to be wasted to be charming, funny, courageous, etc. But I never considered myself an alcoholic because I was able to party hard but still have my life together. I wasn't one of those folks that needed to drink a gallon of vodka a day just to get right.
- Fast forward a few decades and I realize it might be a problem. I used to only drink on weekends and then Thursday became part of the weekend and then I was justifying that I could just take a break on Mondays and Tuesdays. It felt like more and more than alcohol was running in the show. I didn't drink and drive or go out to bars but I would sit in a chair in our TV room and pretty much drink until I fall asleep. Kyle was starting to notice especially when we stayed up late to watch TV. Definitely not one of my finest moments as a parent.
- I knew I needed to make a change because I didn't want to end up like my biological dad or grandfather and I wasn't a fan of the guy I was turning into.
- On October 31, 2022, I decided enough was enough and I started attending meetings and going to therapy. I also got some medicine from my doctor to help with the alcohol cravings.
- And now here I am. It hasn't been easy and I have definitely struggled some days but I am really happy with the choice I made.
- Without the booze, my sweet tooth kicked into overdrive and that is one of the reasons I haven't lost a bunch of weight. I haven't gained any either. But since this sober journey is relatively new, I am giving myself a lot of patience and grace with my eating habits until I am more comfortable with the whole situation.
- If you made it this far, thanks for reading.
Thanks for stopping by. Hope all is well and I will talk to you soon.
I will persevere. I will keep moving forward. I will be the stream.