Friday, April 23, 2010

Countdown to 40 - Day 23

My last day as a 39-year-old dude, and looking back at everything it has been a pretty good ride so far. My Mom kind of imprinted upon me not to have any regrets, and I can't say I don't have any but they are not ones that keep me up at night. I might wish that I had children sooner or made that Motley Crue concert in high school, but like I said I am not losing sleep over that. The regrets I am talking about are ones like going to film school or following your heart. Those were my choices after graduating college: Film school in Nashville or listening to my gut and seeing where a relationship might take me. Well I heard my gut loud and clear, and it has taken me on my current journey. I thought that Mrs. Shife was pretty special and she was worth sticking around for and they rest they say is history. What would have happened if I went to film school? Who knows, but I don't think about it because I made the right decision. I chose the love of my life and so far, so good.

So turning 40, am I where I thought I would be? Yes and no. Married with a child and a fat basset? Yes. Did I think I would be a stay-at-home Dad? No. But that is why life is unexpected and full of twist and turns you don't see coming. Getting laid off before Baby Shife was born was hard to deal with because I never experienced that before and I felt like a failure, but it ultimately turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Mrs. Shife and I looked at the scenarios and realized me staying at home with our boy was a pretty good option. It definitely took some adjusting getting used to my new "career" but in the long run I know we made the right decision. Baby Shife's happiness and well-being are always the most important things and I can wait a few more years before I re-enter the land of cubicles, redundant meetings, and soul-sucking commutes. Plus my boss is really, really cool.


8 comments:

Kori said...

If my boss was that adorable I would RUN to work every day!

And my bassett is finally getting fat, too.

Ms. Moon said...

Ah. I'd say you've made some fine choices.

Red said...

Stay AWAY from the cube farm. You're not missing anything.

just bob said...

The Shife clan definitely ROCKS!

Merely Me said...

Hey - pretend it's forty minutes before your fortieth! Happy Birthday Shife! 40? So long ago....but it is awesome! Enjoy! I have loved the recent posts. Keep it up! Squeeze the crumb-cruncher for me.

Jon said...

I think the number of stay-at-home dads increases every year. Believe me, I wish I could stay at home with my little guy. You're definitely a lucky man in many respects
Happy birthday to you!

Megan said...

I hope that posting every day will not end with the birthday - but of course, I will understand if it does. Your boss probably keeps you on your toes!

Have a wonderful birthday, Mr. Shife. You are on that How Unbelievably Lucky Am I To Have Found This Blog list that I have been compiling. It's a long list, and getting longer all the time, but it's a list of nothing but sheer awesomeness. Just so you know.

I will raise my glass to you tomorrow. Heck, I'll be up at midnight, so it'll be pretty soon!

Crystal said...

Oh my. Please do not put it in my head that THEY are the boss. I don't just have one cutie!